Establishing a good working relationship with your social worker is, of course, a two way street. It is the responsibility of both of you to try to make it work, for the good of your child. If either of you is rude, dismissive or doesn’t seem to be listening, the relationship will struggle.
This doesn’t mean that either the parent or the social worker has to be 100% well behaved 100% of the time; this probably isn’t possible. We are all human and the parent/social work relationship has the potential to be difficult even at the best of times.
But if either person is aware that they haven’t behaved well then they need to apologise sincerely and take action to make things better.
Here is a helpful short video explaining the 3 necessary things to establish a good relationship of ANY kind.
Those 3 things are:
you have to commit to any relationship for it to grow
don’t be insincere, people will notice and it harms the relationship
if you are not talking opening and listening carefully to one another, the relationship can’t work.
Edit – the point of this post was NOT to suggest that we ought to expect social workers to behave badly to the point that they fail to adhere to professional standards and ethical codes. The point being made was that the social work/parent relationship is one between two humans, working in often stressful and difficult situations. But if anyone feels their social worker has acted unprofessionally then they must complain about this kind of behaviour, it is not acceptable.
To read more about making a complaint about a professional, see our post here.